Divorce Mediation: Making Nice
Over the years, I’ve given and received lots of advice for how to act during a divorce mediation. Put simply, it can be summed up in two words: “Make nice.” (Thus, the olive branch, above.)
“Make nice” because your children will be better off for it.
“Make nice” because the alternative to divorce mediation is an expensive and nasty court fight.
“Make nice” because in taking the high road, you will feel better about yourself.
“Make nice” because it creates good karma.
“Make nice” because it makes your life easier.
“Make nice” because you will be happier.
“Make nice” because this is not a struggle to the death, it’s a transition to a new and happier life.
“Make nice” because it’s a true reflection of your authentic self.
“Make nice” because it will be reciprocated….eventually…if you live long enough.
“Make nice” because you want your children to be proud of you.
As parents, we are always modeling good behavior for our children. Making nice is a great opportunity to teach your kids that conflict and civility are not mutually exclusive. It can be a challenge during divorce mediation to make nice, and even more so if there is a high conflict parent, but it can lead to persuasion in negotiation.
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